Saturday, 13 February 2016

Representation Matters

  Author Cassandra Clare announced in August 2014 via Twitter that Raphael Santiago, a minor character from her The Mortal Instruments series, is asexual. Now, this made me super happy, because representation is awesome, yet I couldn't help but think that she could have made it clear in the series. She has made her other characters sexualities very clear cut and obvious, even having one describe himself as "a freewheeling bisexual", so some clear indication of Raphael's sexuality within the series would have been amazing.

  Don't get me wrong, I'm not pooh-poohing Ms. Clare's decision to make Raphael asexual, I just wish it had of been written into the books, and that we could have had more than a Twitter confirmation or announcement. Its kind of like when J. K. Rowling announced Dumbledore, Seamus Finnigan, and Dean Thomas' sexualities. Those could have easily been written into the book, even with a throwaway line, i. e. mention that Dumbledore and Grindelwald had been together, or Seamus and Dean going on a date in Hogsmeade or kissing. To me it would have been quite easy to write the characters sexualities into the book, I'm not asking the characters to dance around and scream, though that would be perfectly fine, I would just like to see clear representation. Not just an announcement after the series is complete.

  I am in no way bashing Ms. Rowling or Ms. Clare, their series are among my all-time favourites and I reread them many times, I merely hope they and other authors would give us more representation than a Twitter or press announcement. We need clear, positive representation. And by positive representation, I mean to not follow or go along with the many tropes characters on the asexual spectrum are written with. These include: cold, robotic, childish, innocent, merciless, inhuman, emotionless, one-sided, 'broken', actually being celibate, faking or lying about their sexuality, and last of all being repressed. Now, these character traits are all fine and good, but when many or all exist in a supposedly asexual character they lend to untrue assumptions of asexuality, some of which are: the non-existence of asexuality, the fixability of asexuality, that asexual people are non or inhuman, that asexual people are childish or innocent, and that asexual people are merely repressed or celibate. These are dangerous and counterproductive assumptions and negative stereotypes and representation. 

  Recently I have been struggling a bit in writing content and deciding what is school appropriate, since this is starting as an English project. So I have taken a bit of a break to brainstorm and my best friend suggested I write a series focusing on representation, I will watch or read shows/movies/books with canon asexual characters then write or review the content and representation. This will be a weekly post series and I will post this along with the kind of posts I have been writing. I will also be properly reviewing the character Raphael Santiago in this series, rather than using him as an example for this post.

  Thank you for reading! Comments, questions, and feedback are always appreciated.

Saturday, 6 February 2016

The Romantic Spectrum

  The romantic spectrum is the spectrum of romantic orientation. A romantic orientation is who you are romantically attracted to, it is not the same as sexuality, which is your sexual attraction. Many romantic orientations have the same prefixes as their corresponding sexuality and they often share the same pride flags. For many people their sexuality and romantic attraction line up, but with many- if not all people on the asexual spectrum, they differ.

  If you remember the definitions from my post on the asexual spectrum you will recall the differences in sexual and romantic attraction. But I'm going to recap them:

  Sexual attraction- wanting that person to touch you

  Romantic attraction- wanting a romantic relationship with that person

  Now, on to business, once again, these are very brief explanations, I hope to expand on them further as I continue and learn more.

  Akioromantic

Experiencing romantic attraction, but having no desire for those feelings to be reciprocated, isn't often shortened to avoid confusion with akiosexuality.

  Aromantic

Not experiencing romantic attraction at all, often shortened to 'aro'.


Source: Aromanticnerd
The aro pride flag

  Biromantic

Experiencing romantic attraction to both men and women, it isn't often shortened to avoid confusion with bisexuality.

Source: Bisexualftw
This is the bisexual pride flag, but the colours remain the same for the biromantic flag



  Cupioromantic

Not experiencing romantic attraction but still desiring a romantic relationship. This orientation doesn't have a flag yet, let me know if you find one!

  Demiromantic

Experiencing romantic attraction but only after a close emotional bond has formed.

Source: Pinterest
This is the demisexual pride flag, but the colours remain the same.

  Grey-romantic

Experiencing romantic attraction but not often, just like with grey-asexuality, it is often at such low levels it is ignorable or hard to realize. Just like grey-asexuality this orientation does not have a pride flag, again, if you find one let me know!

  Heteroromantic

Experiencing romantic attraction to those of the opposite gender. Note: people who are heteroromantic are not automatically straight. Which is a common misconception of many, even those in the asexual community. This orientation does not have a pride flag, but if you find one, let me know!

  Homoromantic

Experiencing romantic attraction to those of the same gender.

Source: Wikipedia
This is the gay pride flag, but the colours remain the same.

  Panromantic

Experiencing romantic attraction to people of any and all genders, I personally am panromantic.

Source: Sodahead

This is the pansexual flag, but the colours remain the same.

  Poly-romantic

Experiencing romantic attraction to multiple but not all genders, not to be confused with bisexuality and pansexuality.


Source: Zazzle
This is the polysexual flag, but the colours remain the same.



 Thanks for reading! Comments, questions, and feedback are appreciated, if you want to talk, my contact info is in my about me post.

  Disclaimer: I do not condone or endorse anything on the websites I have cited, I got the flags from a quick Google image search.